What's your worth?

“Jesus loves me, this I know

For the Bible tells me so…”

Many of us have sung this song since we learned to talk. We’ve heard it so much that it sounds trite. But sometimes it can be hard to actually accept, to truly believe in the depths of your soul.

Maybe you struggle with really believing that God loves you. Maybe you accept it in your head, but it doesn’t actually seem real in your life. Or maybe feeling unloved or unwanted is so ingrained in who you are that you don’t believe that even God could love you. You’d like to believe it, but you just can’t. Not really.

The world will tell you that you have to be thin, beautiful and successful to be worth loving. But even the most successful and glamorous often struggle with feeling unloved and worthless.

God tells you something different. He wants you to understand that your value is based on four absolute truths.

Know who you are: you are created in God’s image. You are literally a small picture of God. And just like the image on a $100 bill is what gives it value, so God’s image on you gives you value. It doesn’t matter who you are, what you’ve done, or what’s been done to you. You have enormous value.

Remember what Christ did: He was tortured to death for you. Jesus knows you. He knows every sin you commit, every secret you hide, every weakness you cover. And He still thinks you are worth dying for.

Find where you fit: you are a member of God’s family. Find people that show that God’s acceptance and love. Develop those friendships that build you up, that draw you toward God. Cut those relationships that tear you down and pull you away from God. God already accepted you and received you into His family. This is where you belong.

Learn what you have: God gave you talents and gifts. It’s easy to look at others and think that you don’t have anything to offer compared to them, but God has given you a way to make a difference. Maybe you can sing, or you can make people laugh, or you are a good organizer or a great listener. Everyone wants to be significant, to make a difference, and God has given you your own way to do just that.

Everyone feels unloved or rejected sometimes. When you find yourself there, hold on to these four truths:

You are valuable.

You are loved.

You belong.

You contribute.

Understanding Satan's Schemes

The other day as I was reading my Bible, I was struck by this phrase in 2 Corinthians 2:8: "We are not ignorant of Satan's schemes." Two things about this sentence caught my attention. First, "not ignorant" suggests that we have some knowledge concerning Satan's ploys, though not necessarily thorough knowledge about every one of them. In other words, "we know the general way that Satan operates." Second, Paul does not say, "We are not ignorant of this scheme" (in the context, unforgiveness), but "of Satan's schemes," plural.  In other words, we are familiar with the type of weapon that Satan uses.

How can this be? Personally, I'm convinced that at least one reason is that Satan works primarily through existing conditions and weaknesses. I'm not saying that he never works supernaturally, but that Satan's usual method is to attack through existing means. James  1:14 describes temptation as being lured and enticed by one's own lust. Guess what? In this case, Satan doesn't even appear in the equation!  While in a general sense, temptation is certainly one of "Satan's schemes," he is simply neither powerful nor interested enough to be directly involved in the minor details of our lives. (On the other hand, our infinitely loving and powerful  God is!)

To be fair, the examples of Job, David, and Jesus all prove that Satan is at least sometimes directly involved in temptation. But even in these times, we see the attack directed toward existing fears, desires or tendencies. Job acknowledged, "That which I greatly feared has come upon me." Scholars generally agree that David's sin in taking a census of Israel was based on his desire for a strong military protection. And in tempting Jesus, Satan appealed to Jesus' hunger and human desire to avoid the pain of rejection and crucifixion. So even these are examples of Satan tempting through existing conditions.

Maybe this helps explain the numerous places in Scripture where we are warned to "watch yourselves" or to "pay attention to yourselves" in order to avoid turning away from God. The better we understand ourselves, the better prepared we are to resist Satan's devices. 

1. You can help guard against temptation by being realistic about your weaknesses. In fact, you probably already know where your weaknesses are - expect temptation in those areas.
2. Unexpected or especially recurring temptations generally have underlying causes. By understanding these causes, you can understand the temptation and thus be better prepared to handle it. For example, having a hard time standing up against negative peer pressure may stem from a strong desire to be accepted; self-centeredness may be fueled by a need to be respected. Recognizing that Satan's answers will never satisfy God-given desires can help you guard against temptation in whatever area you struggle.
3. Just saying "Satan's really tempting me" may be accurate (at least in a very general sense), but it does not help you find a way to handle the temptation. It directs your attention away from what you can control (yourself) and toward what you cannot control (Satan's activity). Instead, try praying that God will help you recognize what it is that makes this temptation especially strong for you.

 The ability to live the Christian life ultimately comes from Christ, not yourself. What I'm describing is a tool, not the whole workshop - but it's a tool that God has given us to use, that Scripture commands us to use, and that we overlook at our own peril.